Lessons Learned, Relationships

Lesson 2: Not showing enough affection and love

You could say “I love you” a thousand times.  They are some of the most powerful words you can speak.  They possess the greatest meaning of any phrase ever spoken.  They are magical for the ears and medicinal to the soul.  Remember, at the end of the day, they are only words.  The meaning and value can only be defined by the actions that accompany them.  

Small actions like holding hands a little more tightly and a little more often.  Maintaining those hugs and kisses a few seconds longer than you normally might.  Looking into each others’ eyes with passion.  Holding that gaze long enough to realize that you are both seeing more than just each other’s eyes.  Caressing their face gently with your hand, reinforced with all the love you possess.  

In most cases, all of these are so much more desirable than a meaningless butt grab.  While fun at times, these serve no further purpose than demonstrating childishness and disrespect.  Don’t get me wrong, in the right setting, the right context, a consensual grope in certain areas can have a good, loving, and desirable effect.  Knowing when, where, and how these gestures are appropriate should be communicated with the other person.

They deserve to be shown every day and every night how much love you have for them.  All of the little gestures of love and affection add up.  Love isn’t any one individual moment.  It is all the moments.  All of the moments added up over time.  Like a beautiful plant, it needs to be continuously tended to.  Without constant effort and attention, it will wither and die.

 Grand gestures are the best, but they are not the only way.  Instead of buying them a bouquet of flowers, go out and pick one.  Instead of taking them to a restaurant, cook something.  Cooking together is nice, but having something ready when they get home is nice too.  Instead of going to a bar or club, put something nice on the radio and dance around your home.


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