Lesson 8: Reciprocation

It is so wonderful to receive things.  Love, affection, thoughtful gifts, dinner when you get home from work, sensual touching, the list goes on.  It is OK to like these things.  It is OK to accept them.  Even rude not to in many cases.  Just make sure you are paying attention and that you are equally giving back.

It is unreasonable to expect and accept without giving back.  Like communication, reciprocation goes both ways.  This one should be among the most obvious.  It makes sense, doesn’t it?  So many actions require reciprocation in order for there to be any value.  Hugs are pleasant, but it is the return hug that turns it into a shared experience.  A kiss is good, but it is so much better when the kiss is returned.  

The bedroom.  The place where reciprocation can be the most crucial.  They deserve to be happy and enjoy the experience too.  No one should ever walk out of the bedroom upset or disappointed.  To allow the other to leave the room without shared satisfaction is to demonstrate that their feelings and happiness are not nearly as important as yours.

This rule is all about balance.  Like any scientific or mathematical equation, love requires balance.  Without balance, it is impossible for the structure to last.  Sure, maybe it will be able to stand longer than you or others might expect, but without balance, without reciprocation of generosity and love, compassion and truth, failure is inevitable.

I would love to sit here and tell you it is never too late, but that would be a lie.  The longer you wait, the more likely it is the structure will fail.  I am a firm believer that anything is possible.  Unfortunately, that also includes the possibility that you wait too long and a point of no return is reached.  Receiving is a great feeling, but giving is too.  Maintain the balance.  Reciprocate, and the structure of love will remain standing and strong.

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