Lessons Learned, Relationships

Lesson 13: Stop caring so much about what others think

Your relationship only belongs to you and whoever you are with.  No one is going to make your choices for you and no one other than you and the person you are with has to live with the consequences of your decisions.  It is yours to be shared with whomever you choose who also feels the same way about you.  An outside perspective may be nice, and in many ways, can be very helpful.  The trick is to understand that, no matter what is said, that perspective is coming from a person that will never have all of the information available or necessary.  

It is so easy to forget that everyone has input when it comes to the lives of others.  Everyone has their own opinion.  Everyone has their own way of how they believe everything should be and their opinion on the matter is the one and only relationship truth.  That doesn’t make their opinion yours.  The only opinions that truly matter are the opinions that you decide matter.  Even then, in the end, the decisions you are making are yours.  Others don’t see everything.  Their opinions are based solely on their encounters with you and your significant other an  

It is one thing to let someone spout their opinion, it is another to let that opinion unjustly impact your own.  Others may think that they understand or see, but they are missing a lot of the little details that have a tendency to make the greatest impact.  Little things that seem insignificant, but when mixed with enough of the other little, unseen things, end up making a big difference.  It is also important to understand that the consequences of letting others dictate how your relationship should go, do not just impact you.  They will affect your significant other as well.  Pick and choose the opinions that matter to you most, but remember, that never has to be what you think.

At the end of the day, the only thing that truly matters is what is between you and the person you love.  They are the ones that you come home to and they are the ones that your life will continue to be associated with.  Others can say and think whatever they want but when talking about the relationship of others, remember that they are not the ones going home to face them.  There is a lot that takes place out of the view of others.  It is a balance and you have to determine what is acceptable to you. 

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2 thoughts on “Lesson 13: Stop caring so much about what others think

  1. It’s all a balance, as you said. Listen to the opinion for sometimes it can be helpful but do not weigh yourself down with that outside opinion for only you know the full facts of what is and what isn’t.

    Love this.

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    • Thank you. It can sometimes be difficult to reach a good balance between healthy outside input and allowing the opinions of others to supersede your own. That has been my experience at least. I like the way you put it so much better. “do not weigh yourself down with that outside opinion” is a fantastic way to put it. I love that! Thank you so much!

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