Relationships

Lesson 15: Don’t wait until it’s too late

This isn’t just about apologizing.  This can be anything.  Waiting too long to apologize.  Waiting too long to carry out a promise that was made.  Putting off doing that thing you said you would do.  Before you know it, tomorrow has arrived, but the time to execute has already passed.  Just because you are willing at that moment, doesn’t mean the right moment hasn’t already come and gone.  Time can never be recovered and what is done is done.  There are no take-backs and do-overs will always carry the weight of previously missed opportunities.  

You can always apologize afterward, but it doesn’t matter.  Even if you come up with the best phrase or best solution of all time.  It isn’t worth much if you are too late.  Once the damage is done, in most cases, that is it.  Timing matters and that timing is not always, if ever, up to you, or on your side.  Don’t wait.  Short of an emergency, there is no reason to not do that thing you said right now.  They decide when enough is enough.  It isn’t up to you.  They determine whether or not your efforts are too late or you took too long to realize you missed the opportunity.  Once that opportunity is missed, nothing else matters.   

You can have a life-altering epiphany.  One that will change your entire outlook on how you want to treat your significant other.  Maybe you see that you have not been sensitive or compassionate enough.  Maybe you realize that you have something spectacular but have never really shown your appreciation or gratitude.  You decide that enough is enough and you are going to do something about it.  Something for them.  Something that will show them what they mean to you.  Come morning, they will know an entirely different, much better, more desirable relationship experience.   It all counts for nothing if it comes after the decision has been made that things need to end.  

Think of your relationship and timing as glass and missed timing is that glass being dropped.  Once the glass is broken, it can never be completely fixed.  Sure, you can put the pieces back together, but does it ever really look, feel, or function the same after that?  The best tools can’t undo the damage that is already done and will forever remain.  Timing is critical.  Don’t wait to show them how special they truly are.  They chose you.  Make it count for something every day.  Show them they are worth the effort of being vigilant every day.  Pay attention to everything, big and small.  The signs are there, but they are not always so easy to notice.

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