Lesson 22: Nice and loving gestures

I have yet to meet anyone in this world that did not appreciate a well thought out surprise that was meant for them.  It doesn’t even have to be well thought out.  Some flowers and chocolates on the way home can do the job equally as well.  Whether or not you like surprises or presents, it is always nice to know that someone was thinking about you and cared enough to take the time and go out of their way to do something nice for you.  

These can be simple things but this is where listening intently, paying attention, and remembering the things they like really come into play.  Nice and loving gestures are where you not only show them how much you love them and care about making them happy, it is an opportunity to show that you were listening to what they said and the things they care about are important to you.  It is a simple and easy way to demonstrate your commitment to what you both share.  It also feels really good to make the person you love feel special.  It is too easy to get so distracted that too much time passes between these gestures.  

It is not about buying the relationship and paying some kind of “love rent.”  There is no price tag, price expectation, or price limit.  If the other person can’t appreciate the gesture without some kind of financial attachment, you probably have bigger problems.  This is about reigniting that feeling you got when you were young when someone brought you a present.  The excitement and mystery felt great but the feeling of being special enough to someone that they would get you a present was indescribable.

There doesn’t even have to be money involved.  Go for a nice walk and pick out a nice flower.  If you see a colorful rock that you know they would like or find interesting, grab it, take it home, and put it in a box to wrap and present to them.  It isn’t about the gift itself, it is about the thought attached to it.  That mental connection.  Get to the door first so you can hold it open for them.  Wake up 20 minutes earlier than them and make them some breakfast in bed.  Have a nice big dinner ready for them when they get home from work.  Play a nice slow song in your home and pull them close for a dance.  Hug and kiss them as much as possible.

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