Lesson 30: You are not as smart as you think you are

Don’t you hate it when someone talks to you in a way, about anything, and it is clear that they are not as knowledgeable about the subject as they seem to think they are?  You are not the only one.  I would be willing to bet that this is something you are probably guilty of as well.  It is ok to admit it.  I know I am.  Guess what!  No matter how smart you think you are, there is always room to learn more.  Just because you think you are the smartest person in the room, doesn’t make it the truth.  

I thought I knew everything I needed to know, and then some.  I was fueled with confidence and was convinced that I had everything in life figured out.  I considered all of my life experiences, time spent with my nose in books, how many years I spent with my butt planted in classrooms listening to professors, and I would think about how no one could possibly know all the things that I know.  I was right, but that didn’t make me smart.  It most certainly didn’t make me the smartest person in the room.

In fact, when you think you are smart enough to the point where you have nothing left to learn from anyone, you just proved that you are as stupid as can be.  Everyone, no matter what position they occupy, has something they could teach us.  I don’t care if you are a triple Ph.D. recipient or an elementary school dropout.  There are always lessons to be learned.  A closed mind is a dumb mind.  There is always room for improvement.

In relationships, confidence is attractive.  Any relationship.  Friends like to have confident people around them and so do significant others.  Overconfidence, on the other hand, not so much.  It is ok to not have all the answers.  It is the biggest part of the adventure that is life.  The journey to discovery.  I have yet to meet someone that was pleased to be by a know-it-all.  The vulnerability that accompanies not having all the answers lets people know that you are human.  The ability to admit you don’t know makes you more trustworthy.  Open your mind.

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