Lesson 9: Don’t get stuck in your own world

Take a look around from time to time.  Try and see or feel things as you think someone else might.  Empathize with those around you.  It is so easy to make mistakes and get things wrong if your point of view is nothing more than tunnel vision.  This is where a lot of relationships end.  This is where communication can easily deteriorate.  You are not the only one with a problem and there are few problems in existence that you need to or are required to face alone.  Ask for help.  Let others in.  Don’t let your ego cause you to miss out on life.

Getting stuck in your own world leads to a complete lack of seeing the obvious.  This will have a negative impact in all of your relationships, not just romantic.  Tunnel vision may seem like a good path to success, and maybe you will achieve some, but at what cost?  Tunnel vision causes you to lose sight of everything else going on around you.  It is singular and, in most cases, selfish.  Everything you are doing is focused on one thing and everyone around you will see it.  Unless they share that exact vision with you, they will all eventually distance themselves from you.  It is difficult to relate to someone with such a closed mind.

Look at the greatest people in history who embraced the world around them.  They believed in something beyond the scope of their own world.  They committed to actions that they believed were in the best interest of the people that trusted them, but they never believed they were great or that they did not need the help of others.  At least, not outwardly.  Humility is a tool.  People value those who can be humble.  It is OK to ask for help.  It is OK to admit from time to time that you don’t know everything.  Closing yourself off from input cuts you off from everything that can make you better.

One of the biggest problems with getting stuck in your own world is that it is so easy to miss everything going on around you.  It is easy to get overwhelmed and stressed.  It happens more often and to more people than you might think.  Life can get difficult.  Sometimes, it might even feel impossible.  Life is a very bumpy road and some roads have more bumps than others.  Some will have even bigger bumps.  When you hit those bumps, it might  feel like the time to panic.  Don’t.  Embrace it.  Try a different perspective.

Everything in life is what you make of it.  Instead of seeing the bumps as obstacles, look at them as opportunities.  Perhaps you just lost your job or were notified that your employer is letting you go soon.  That is some hard information to receive.  Uncertainty is scary and can be stressful, no matter the circumstances.  Remember, you have already gotten this far through your witt, charm, wisdom, determination, etc.  This is a chance for you to explore new opportunities in a different area.  It is a chance to meet new people and gain new experiences.

Whatever happens, leave your ego out of it.  Great men and women throughout history knew they were smart, knew they were capable of great things, and did the best they could with what was available.  They also learned to listen to and accept input from others.  They knew that there is no idea that is so great that it could not be made greater with help from others.  The ones that thought they were better than the ideas they had, that no one else could possibly come up with something better, typically ended up not being all that wonderful.  

Ego is another way of being blinded from the world around you.  Any time you feel like you are the top of the world, that you are the one that makes the winds blow and the skies filled with water whenever it rains, is the time for a reality check.  Karma exists.  It is real.  You get what you deserve.  It might be too late to change what has already transpired, but there is always hope that you can be a better person just by making others feel better.   


  1. Live in the moment
  2. Look around you
  3. Don’t be afraid of uncertainty
  4. Turn obstacles into opportunities
  5. Leave your ego out of it


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