Lesson 15: Don’t wait until it’s too late

Seize the moment.  Take advantage of the opportunities that present themselves.  Don’t hesitate.  Don’t wait.  The time will come when it is too late and the moment that happens is the moment that regrets are born.  The same goes for when you make an error or mistake.  Don’t wait too long to correct it or put the effort in to apologize.  Unfortunately, you will always know when it is too late, and at that point, there is little you can do about it.  Pay attention.  Acting in the moment will save so much time and pain later on.

This isn’t just about apologizing.  This can be anything.  Waiting too long to apologize.  Waiting too long to carry out a promise that was made.  Putting off doing that thing you said you would do.  Before you know it, tomorrow has arrived, but the time to execute has already passed.  Just because you are willing at that moment, doesn’t mean the right moment hasn’t already come and gone.  Time can never be recovered and what is done is done.  There are no take-backs or do-overs.  You will always carry the weight of previously missed opportunities.  

You might think you can apologize afterward, but that isn’t always the case.  Even if you come up with the best apology or best solution of all time, if you are too late, it is irrelevant.  It is no longer worth much, if anything at all.  Once the damage is done, in most cases, that is it.  Timing matters and that timing is not always, if ever, up to you, or on your side.  Don’t wait.  Short of an emergency, there is no reason to not do that thing you said right now.  They will decide when enough is enough, and they might not even tell you if it is.  It isn’t up to you.  They determine whether or not your efforts are too late or you took too long to realize you missed the opportunity.  Once that opportunity is missed, nothing else matters.   

You can have a life-altering epiphany.  One that will change your entire outlook on how you want to treat your significant other.  Maybe you see that you have not been sensitive or compassionate enough.  Maybe you realize that you have something spectacular but have never really shown your appreciation or gratitude.  You decide that enough is enough and you are going to do something about it.  Something for them.  Something that will show them what they mean to you.  Come morning, they will know an entirely different, much better, more desirable relationship experience.   It all counts for nothing if it comes after the decision has been made that things need to end.  

Think of your relationship and timing as glass and missed timing is that glass being dropped.  Once the glass is broken, it can never be completely fixed.  Sure, you can put the pieces back together, but does it ever really look, feel, or function the same after that?  The best tools can’t undo the damage that is already done and will forever remain.  Timing is critical.  Don’t wait to show them how special they truly are.  They chose you.  Make it count for something every day.  Show them they are worth the effort of being vigilant every day.  Pay attention to everything, big and small.  The signs are there, but they are not always so easy to notice.

This pretty much goes for everything in life.  Timing is everything.  It is one of the few things that we have no control over.  Things happen and you either embrace and adjust accordingly, or you don’t.  Just because something seems too late, doesn’t mean it is over.  I am talking about avoiding difficult positions in the first place.  Being too late doesn’t mean that you should immediately give up.  I only mean to emphasize the difficulty you will face.  Difficulty that could have been avoided had you taken advantage of the opportunity at the right time.

Pay close attention and take stock of what is happening around you.  I have said it before and I will say it again.  Communicate.  Ask questions.  Make sure you have an understanding of the situation.  A lot of this is based on being able to notice or understand the situation as it is occurring.  If you are unsure or things are unclear, ask.  Listen to the response and adjust.  Just because you miss the immediate chance doesn’t mean it is completely lost.  As I said before, the people you are dealing with decide when it is too late.  No one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try your hardest to be.

Takeaways:

  1. Seize the moment
  2. Don’t wait until it’s too late
  3. Timing isn’t always up to you
  4. Communicate and ask questions
  5. No one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to be

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