Lesson 24: Don’t lose touch with quality friends

The people you choose to be around you let everyone, including yourself, know a lot more about you than you might think.  Quality friends are hard to come by so it is important to keep in touch with them to ensure that the bond is never broken.  They are your support system and will get you through all of the good and bad times.  When you enter into a romantic relationship, it is easy to lose touch.  You get so focused on the romance that the connection with your friends starts to fray.  This can spell disaster if you are not careful. 

Your romantic relationship should be your priority, but it should never come at the expense of quality friendships.  You and you alone are responsible for your mental state.  Life is difficult.  Bad things happen.  The good news is you don’t have to face the bad things on your own.  Not if you don’t want to.  It is ok to ask for help.  Friendships, like relationships, require constant attention and fostering.  Relationships, romantic or otherwise, are like a plant.  Fail to take care of and maintain them, they wither away.  All it takes is a phone call here or a text message there to let them know that you care about the relationship and you value their involvement in your life.   

You need to always be your absolute best.  An easy way to do that is to maintain quality friendships in your life.  This doesn’t mean that they should be a higher priority than your romantic relationships.  It just means that you need help.  These are the people that, no matter what happens, are ready and willing to do whatever it takes to help you.  We always hope for the best, but bad days come.  Pain and heartache are inevitable.  Friends are there to help share the burden.  This not only makes the pain and heartache more bearable, but it also provides hope.  The belief that tomorrow will be better.  It will be better because you are not alone.

Because they are a reflection of you and the types of choices you make, your friends can also tell you a lot about the person you are romantically involved with.  They don’t even have to say anything.  No words needed.  Observe how your significant other treats your friends.  Take notice of the way they talk about and how they view your friends whether it is in person, or when they aren’t around.  Are they kind words?  Are they degrading?  Do they encourage the friendships or are they hostile towards them?  These are all important factors to take into consideration.

Friends are important.  The kinds of friends you have around you are a reflection of you.  They show others the type of people you like or prefer to associate with.  This doesn’t mean you have to be friends with everyone.  Pick and choose carefully.  Quality over quantity.  Time is irreplaceable so take great care in choosing who you spend your time with.  It also shows your significant other the kinds of things and people you value having in your life.  They are not the family you were given on the day you were born.  They are the family you choose.

Takeaways:

  1. Your choice of friends says a lot about you.
  2. Good friends are hard to come by.
  3. It doesn’t take tremendous effort to keep in touch.
  4. You don’t have to face things in life on your own.
  5. Pay attention to how your significant other treats and views your friends.

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