Lesson 34: Everyone deserves a happily ever after

Life may not always seem like a fairy tale, but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the best parts of one.  No one deserves to be unhappy or miserable.  No one deserves to be alone.  Life is all about balance.  Balancing work and play, light and dark, right and left, and pretty much everything else.  Just because something bad has happened to you, does not make you any less worthy of enjoying a life filled with love and happiness.

It isn’t just important to know and believe this for yourself.  It is important to recognize that those around you deserve it too.  If you see something wrong in the world, the only way things will get better is if something is done to fix it.  When you see someone that is sad, or lonely, or having a difficult time, you have a choice to make.  You can do something about it, or walk away and wonder what could have been.  You are being provided with a wonderful opportunity.  It is the chance to be a hero.  The chance to do something good.  The chance to be the light that defeats the darkness surrounding someone else.  Don’t waste it.

There will be times when life doesn’t seem fair.  Bad things happen to good people.  It might seem inevitable and it might occur so often that you start to feel like it is what you deserve.  When you experience the same things for a long enough period of time, it starts to feel like the norm.  Maybe you start to believe that you deserve it.  That you deserve to be alone and that you are unworthy of someone else’s love and affection.  That you are destined to always be alone to suffer the difficulties of life without the help of others.  It breaks my heart when people feel that way.  I am telling you now, that will never be the case.  You deserve to enjoy a life of fulfillment and love.  Nobody deserves to unjustly suffer.  

It is important to remember that bad things happen to bad people as well.  Don’t hate them for it.  Pity their response to the hardships of life.  How would they know to behave badly if they never experienced bad things in their life?  I am not saying that bad behavior or actions deserve to be rewarded.  I am saying that bad things happen and it is up to each and every one of us how we respond.  Just because bad things happened to you does not mean that you deserved it.  Instead, let it reinforce the value in, and appreciation of, all the good things life has to offer.  Let it be the pathway to a better life.

Nothing is set in stone other than the inevitability of change.  What you choose to do and how you impact the lives of others is entirely up to you.  You deserve to be happy, and so does everyone else.  Let the infectious nature of good things spread.  Learn to smile more.  Even if it is forced at first, eventually, you will notice that things are changing around you.  Try smiling more in public.  Make yourself.  If it helps, tell yourself that you are testing a theory.  See how people react to your constant smiling.  I would be willing to bet that you will notice more people smiling back at you.

Define what your happily ever looks like.  Is it wealth?  A big house with a nice pool and several exotic cars in the garage? Is it a family?  Is it being able to travel the world and see all the beautiful things that the world has to offer?  Whatever the answer, keep hold of it.  Write it down if you have to and keep it somewhere close.  Be kind to others and remember that you deserve whatever it is you decide.  It will not likely be handed to you.  It might not even come easy.  But if you want it bad enough, don’t ever let anything get in the way of it.  You deserve it. 

Takeaways:

  1. Look for opportunities to be a shining light to others.
  2. Nobody deserves to unjustly suffer.
  3. Learn to smile more.
  4. You deserve to be happy.
  5. Define what happily ever after means to you.

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